Go fish…
Does knowing there are thousands of fish in the sea equate to forfeiting any and all efforts in the dating game? Lately, I’ve been giving this a lot of thought- particularly intrigued by the seeming lackadaisical nature of said fish. Perhaps this blasé sentiment has been mutual from time to time but in the game of pursuer and pursued, doesn’t someone have to “give” or is it all “take” these days?
So, maybe you think you’ve caught a good one, you’re asked out for dinner or a drink and when you agree, is that the extent of efforts made ? It would appear so, but the battle is not won here. Showing up for the date is important, or if you have to rain-check, by all means, do so but don’t do it without a good excuse. Not calling because you were hoping you could squeeze in a few hours for dinner in between party-hopping is a terrible excuse, fyi.
Sometimes, I wish dates would have rescheduled on me. Cancellation for a date due to lack of readiness can be perfectly acceptable, and admittedly this would have won points for sincerity. Un-hypothetically speaking, showing up for a date without your wallet is sort of like showing up to a job interview without your resume…and a shirt. Confidence and tactfulness are two incredibly attractive qualities, if both those are out the door in one night, it’s pretty safe to say it’s all downhill from there. But maybe some people have so much…self-confidence, egotism, or maybe simply just a lack of awareness, that they believe people will take them any which way they can. For example, ideally I would never show up to a date without ample time to compose myself. Dates that I have frantically gotten ready for after rushing around after work trying to find something in my closet that looks right, seem to be ruffled from beginning to end. By now, I’ve learned that dishevelment isn’t really becoming when trying to make an impression.
But aren’t these “do’s and don’ts” self-explanatory? Don’t people watch romantic comedies or television anymore? These stereotypical characters exist, not only for amusement, but also for our own benefit- a cheat sheet if you will. Perhaps we are so busy pursuing our careers and thinking about our own betterment, maybe we don’t put forth any effort in our dating lives, but rather get by on the excuse that if it’s meant to be, it’ll be. If not, well… no real emotions are lost on someone you don’t really know, and truthfully, due to the sheer volume of people running around this city, it would be excruciating to be personally invested in everyone you went out with or met a few times. So, instead it appears that we resolve to….go fish?
